How To Respond When She Rejects You...

So, you've sent an email to a woman you REALLY dig. It was one of your BEST emails, one that will surely catch her attention. You wait a few days for her response and...... nothing.

You wait a few more days and still no response.

So, you send her your standard, "no response" email. She's sure to respond to that one.

Once again, you wait for her response. Then a few days later, FINALLY, there’s her email in your inbox!

She responded! You read her response which says,

"Hi, so sorry about not getting back to you. Things have been really hectic around here. Unfortunately, I don't think we are a good match."

Take care,

(name)

Ah, there it is... The "take care" message that so many women send. I would swear they all belong to some underground women's group that invented this "take care" message as their standard response. Kind of like a woman's standard fake number she hands out at bars and clubs.

If you've been involved in online dating for any length of time, I'm sure you've seen this response.

So, how do you respond?

Well, here’s what you DON’T do.

You definitely want to AVOID getting all mad and then sending her an angry response.

Here’s one that women get all the time:

"You know, I don't know how you can reject someone you haven't even met in person. You don't even know me. We could have been a great match. Next time, why don't you give a guy a chance.."

There it is. Angry response from angry guy! What does the above message say about angry guy?

It says,

"I'm angry, rejected and I'm putting too much importance on what you think of me. I don't have a whole lot going on in my life so I was hoping you would like me. I feel so bad about you rejecting me that I'm going to try and get you back by shaming you."

See, how silly that is? No woman on an internet dating site should have that kind of power over you. It doesn't do any good to get angry and try and "get her back." That's a waste of time and energy.

Instead, send her something like this:

"Hey, no problem! I've got thick skin. Anyway, good luck out there. You're going to need it."

Says all the right things about you and it's rather ambiguous with the "you're going to need it" comment at the end. She'll be dying to know what you mean by that... it might even get her coming back to you.

Try it and let me know what happens.

Internet Dating Tips For Men – The Mindset for Success

So, you browsed around on a very popular online dating site and checked out all those stunningly attractive women and you just can’t wait to fire off witty emails to get their attention.

Right?

Or, you’ve written up what you think is an AWESOME profile and its time to submit it online and wait for a flood of responses.

Hold on!

Don’t you dare sign up to ANY Internet dating sites or write any profiles because you have something very important to do first.

What is it you ask?

Well, you HAVE to get you head on straight!

Let me ask you some questions.

Did you just get out of a very serious relationship that ended badly?

Are you freshly divorced or separated?

Are you out to replace your ex as SOON as possible to fill a certain void in your life?

If you answered “yes” to any of the above questions, then do me and every woman who has a dating profile a favor… and just wait!

That’s right, just wait and take the time to get your life together and your issues resolved.

The reason is if you go out and start dating online and don’t have your life together, then you are setting yourself up for failure. Do you think a beautiful, attractive, high quality woman wants to deal with a guy who still has issues and can’t let go of an ex?

Of course not!

And the whole reason for getting into Internet dating is to attract a high quality woman for YOU, right?

Now, if you go online and spew your venom and insecurities all over the place, who do you think you are going to attract?

Yep, another woman with the SAME issues.

Why is this? Because like attracts like when it comes to maturity and character. Take a moment and think back to all the women you’ve dated over the years. Got it? Good!

Now, which ones were a total pain in the butt?

I’m talking “SCREAM in your face every time you look at another woman” kind of pain in the butt?

Hm, if you’re like me, there were a lot of them.

OK, now try and think back to what state of mind YOU were in at the time. Were things going well for you?

Was your self-esteem intact? Did you really feel good about yourself?

Maybe not, huh?

During the last ten years I’ve met a lot of women online and one thing I’ve found is that when I don’t have my life together, I seem to attract the most super ultra high drama queens imaginable. And the relationship never lasts…

And I wasted a lot of time.

I don’t want you to waste your time. I want you to find a HIGH QUALITY woman who will be right for YOU.

So, before you go online and start corresponding with anyone, take a LONG look in the mirror and ask yourself...

Am I ready?

Do I have it together?

Once you do the work to get these issues resolved, I GUARANTEE that you will have better results meeting high quality women online.

And that’s what it’s all about!

Right?

Emailing Women SUCKS!

What do you think is the MOST frustrating part of online dating?

What do you HATE the most about it?

I'll bet you don't have to think too hard about it because I'm guessing that you find "getting women to respond to your emails" the MOST frustrating!

Am I right?

Well, I know because I've been there. I remember the days of sending out multiple emails to every HOT woman I could find, only to be rejected again and again and AGAIN!

Sucks!

After all, what's the point of even spending all this time with internet dating if you can't get women to view or respond to your emails??

Right?

Well, I've got news for you...

Did you know that most of the women you are emailing aren't even OPENING your messages?

It's true!

Now, if most women aren't opening your messages then they definitely can't write you back!

No, these women aren't "rejecting" you for being too bald, too short, too old, or too fat... They aren't even SEEING your emails in the first place!

A woman can't reject someone she doesn't know exists... right?

This is good news!

Now, what you need to do is make sure women are opening your emails. As you know, attractive women are getting bombarded with emails from guys every hour of every day and you better BELIEVE that they are going to delete ones that don't get their attention... FAST!

So, what is it that determines whether or not a woman will open your email?

It comes down to ONE thing:

Your email subject line!

If you are using a dating site that also displays a user's picture with the message then she will see that too but your email subject line is the single MOST important part of your message and if you want your emails read... you had BETTER get it right!

No, lines like, "Hey baby" or "Hi" aren't going to cut it. If you use one of those subject lines, your email will be deleted immediately!

Well lucky for you, I've come up with a way of making sure your emails will get opened and read EVERY TIME! It's really not that hard to do and you'll be kicking yourself for not learning this sneaky little trick sooner.

It involves using mystery and ambiguity in your subject lines.

Women can't resist this! It drives them NUTS!

Imagine sending an email with the following subject line:

"Wait! You're about to MAKE a HUGE mistake! Don't do it!"

Now, when ANY woman comes across an email with that subject you can be SURE she's going to open it. The next part is crucial! You have to follow it up in your email in a way that makes sense. Don't just launch into your message without explaining the subject line.

You have to be clever here...

Say something like:

"...Don't open that message from the guy above me unless you enjoy bicycle dates. He doesn't own a car. Anyway..."

That's just one of many messages I've sent to women and they just EAT IT UP! What does it do?

First, it gets their attention... very important!

Second, it shows that I have a sense of humor. Also SUPER IMPORTANT. Most guys don't use ANY humor in their emails to attractive women because they are so scared of them.

Finally, it shows I have confidence and I'm NOT afraid to express who I am!

Super important!

Try it out and let me know how it goes!

Are You Making These Profile Mistakes?

Ok, I've been looking at some profiles that guys are sending and I realized it's time to send out a list of things to NOT include on your online dating profile. Hope this helps:

1. Do not show a picture of yourself wearing a "World of Warcraft" T-shirt.
Need I say more?

2. "I love to curl up on a rainy day and read a good book, cuddle, and take long walks on the beach." Yes, women like to do these things, but they don't want to hear that from you. Women want a REAL man!

3. Any picture with your shirt off.
It's CHEEZY and not what women want to see in a guy's profile. She wants to see her boyfriend with his shirt off, not you.

4. Weird stuff like: "Hey my name's Joe, but the ladies call me stud muffin."
This is a HUGE turn off and quite lame!

5. Self-deprecating humor. (Making fun of yourself.)

6. Showing you have money.
"In my spare time, I love cruising around in my Porsche." Trying way TOO hard! Do you want the kind of woman who is impressed by this?? I think not!

7. Being too unavailable.
"I work 60-70 hours per week."
Woman thinks: "You will not have time for me."

8. Profile that's too long. Always be MYSTERIOUS! Saying too much kills attraction!
She shouldn't have to scroll down to read your write up.

9. Too many/not enough pictures.
You only need 5 pics.
A. One head shot where the girl can clearly see your face. No sunglasses, hats, etc. It shows you're trying to hide something.
B. A picture of you doing something fun. Perhaps one of your hobbies?
C. A picture of you out with friends.
D. More of B and C.

10. Show a CONFIDENT writing style! Do NOT use passive language.

So, there you go. Constructing a magnetic profile that attracts quality women isn't so hard if you follow the rules above. Post comments and tell me what you think.

When to Write Women...

Summer is here! Well, at least where I live. The interesting thing is that Summer does have an effect on when to send emails to women on internet dating sites. Obviously, more women are out doing things during this time of year and are spending less time online.

One thing that does not change is the amount of time people spend online during the week at their jobs. You wouldn't believe how many women spend their days, bored at unfulfilling jobs reading their emails. I used to post an ad on Craigslist and the replies would come in one after another at all hours during the day on weekdays.

So, what does this mean? It means you still want to post new ads on Craigslist, MORNINGS during the week. This is when women are going to be surfing the web looking for clever ads with unique headlines... You know, the kind you learn about in my book, "Internet Dating Mastery." So, keep doing that.

On weekends though, you'll want to tone down your efforts. Summer is all about going out and enjoying your passions! So live it up this Summer!! And meet some attractive women, don't let this opportunity go to waste.

Why She Won't Respond To Your Emails...

Ok, so a lot of guys have been writing me lately on the subject of emails... more specifically, they are having trouble getting women to respond to that first email. This is, in fact, the most common hurdle men face with online dating. They see a profile with a woman who looks GREAT, so they send her an email. Now, the wait begins and if they didn't get her attention using the methods I teach, then they'll be waiting a LONG time for a response.

Remember, women are getting bombarded with emails all day long from guys. That's probably something you already know and it's important to realize. Now all you have to do is GET HER ATTENTION and do something that no other guy is doing!!!

The way to do this is with mysterious and ambiguous email subject lines. After going through years of testing various emails and their response rate, I found that most women will look at an email subject line FIRST when deciding whether or not to respond. That's really the only thing making her click! The exception would of course be if she's on a site where a pic is included with the response, such as Match.

So, be sure and include a subject line that will have her wondering, "What does this guy mean?" or "What is he talking about?"

Here's my all time fave: "Hey, you'd better stop that right now!"

It works in email subject lines and profile headlines. Then you follow it up with something clever like, "That's right, you'd better stop wasting your time browsing around lame profiles! You're going to fall asleep!"

Then just go right into your email.. See how easy it is? That's how you get her attention.

Give it a try and be SURE to let me know what happens!

If you want to discover several other ways to get a woman's attention online then my ebook "Internet Dating Mastery" is the place to find them.

Go read it now and become an Internet Dating Master!

V-Day Sucks!

Man, I used to really HATE Valentines Day. Well, that's because I was almost always single when V-Day came around for it's yearly reminder that I have nobody special in my life. It was a day I wanted to forget! Driving by Red Lobster and seeing the place packed with couples! That was both hilarious and depressing at the same time.

Well, I'm here to say that V-Day ain't so bad...

You see, it's the perfect time to go online and test out some new strategies. There are so many different methods you can use and if executed perfectly, you'll have to CHOOSE who you want to be with on Valentines Day.

Why don't you try something like this... As the dreaded day approaches, start sending out emails with the following subject line: "V-Day disasters." Or "Valentines Day disasters." My open rate exploded when I used this line once!!

Where do you take it from there? Easy. Just say something like, "Having to spend V-Day with him instead of me." Then you can list the reasons why that would be a huge mistake!

And who is him, anyway?

Internet Dating is for Losers!

Is that what you believe? I sincerely hope not!

I was just talking to a female friend of mine and she refused to believe that a guy could meet quality women online and run "smooth game" on the internet.

I had to laugh as she said that. It's so funny how some people believe there's a stigma with online dating and only "losers" are looking for dates online. Those who have such a ridiculous belief generally fall into one of two categories.

1) They've NEVER tried online dating and don't know what it's about.

2) They tried it once, didn't know how to do it effectively and failed at it. Then they gave up convinced that it's a waste of time.

Well, I have to feel sorry for folks in both groups. If you fall into the first group then that's OK. You just need to take some action and get into the game. The sooner the better!

As far as the second group, well all you have to do is learn how to meet people online the right way. And if you use my strategies for meeting quality women online, you'll have more dates that you've ever had before!

So, I told my friend all about how I've met tons of cool, attractive women online and how it's important for guys to be non-needy, convey their confidence and show their personalities in their profiles. She didn't have much to say after that.

To all those people who think online dating is for losers. Well, go right ahead. In the mean time the rest of us will enjoy meeting tons of quality women from the .... gulp Internet.